Toilet training is hard work and time consuming but worth it in the end!Here are some helpful hints and resources for toilet training.
Choose a time when you can stay around the house - a couple of days should do it. If you do need to go out you could use disposable pants. Toilet your child before you leave and when you get there.
Toilet training takes time and can be frustrating but you will get there. Your child will forget about the toilet when they are playing so you will need to remind them. Do not expect them to get everything right, such as flushing or washing and drying hands and expect lots of accidents, especially during naps. If they do wet or soil themselves after getting off the toilet, don't get angry -even if you want to. Explain to the child the need to try and do it on the toilet. Remember you can train your child to be dry and clean- it just takes time!
Use lots of praise when your child is successful. Don’t make a fuss if they have an accident. Turing it into a battle will create problems. Tell any adult important to the child about their success. Make them feel special and clever. Catching and praising your child for being successful will be far more powerful than nagging, threats or punishments.
Make sure anyone caring for your child is aware of what you are doing and is prepared to continue with it.
HAVE LOTS OF CLEAN CLOTHES HANDY
They will have lots of accidents until there is an established routine. Training between Easter time and the summer holidays can work well – it’s much easier to get washing dried and your child can go around in fewer clothes. During very cold weather, children have less control. Have quite a few pairs of pants handy - they don't have to be expensive ones! Keep everything you need to change your child together in one place.
CHILDREN DISLIKE THE DISCOMFORT OF SOILED CLOTHES
Avoid using absorbent training pants. Children have to learn to make the connections between bodily feelings just before they go, such as a full bladder, AND passing urine or passing a motion AND doing it in the right place, the potty or eventually the toilet. To the child, urine and faeces are new and interesting things so accept their interest in them.
SHOW YOUR CHILD; TELL HIM/HER WHAT YOU WANT
Talk about going to the toilet in a natural way. Let them see what you or their older brothers and sisters do in the toilet. Agree family words to use for urine, faeces and body parts e.g. wee-wee, poo, bottom.
WATCH YOUR CHILD
Look for any tell tale signs that your child needs the toilet - you know your child best.
Most children only pass a bowel movement once or twice a day. With practice, you’ll be able to guess when he/she will go e.g. soon after wakening, after a meal. By toilet timing you are able to draw a child’s attention to routine and their physical sensations. Soon the child gains control of his/her muscles, which can help them to ‘hold in’ while you rush them to the potty/toilet. In time they will tell you when they need to go.
It is harder for a child to notice the feeling of a full bladder. They have less time between noticing this feeling and having to urinate. Children urinate many times each day. Staying dry at night is, in some ways, an additional skill which comes after daytime dryness. Make sure there are plenty of their favourite drinks around, so they need to go more often while they are training. It is also important to show boys how they can stop-start-stop-start when urinating.
Below are some book titles/stories that may help you and your child with the toilet training process